Reflective Meditation: re-learning and remembering trust

“Bringing our meditation sittings into a conversation with another person changes the conversation to a relationship; one of developing trust, care, and collaboration. The Dharma teachings emerge between us.” — Linda Modaro

With Linda Modaro and Bill Wellhouse
Thursday, March 26, 2020 – Tuesday, March 31, 2020
San Marcos, California (1 hour north of San Diego) – Questhaven Retreat

During this five-night, six-day residential retreat, we will teach an open meditation practice that is followed by reflection and journaling. We welcome continuing students, as well as meditators who are new to our orientation towards meditation practice and retreats. The roots of this practice are to be found in the Buddha’s early teachings and are based on learning to trust the ways of knowing that develop in meditation, enabling you to be more responsive and present in your life.


We welcome new meditators, as well as, long-time meditators. Anyone who has practiced Reflective Meditation, Vipassana, Mindfulness or other styles of meditation. Anyone who is new to our orientation towards meditation practice and retreats. Meditation teachers are also welcome.


We believe that you can learn beneficial ways of meditating by seeing how your mind operates within meditation. This kind of “seeing” can be naturally developed through recollection and reflection, whether done in a journal or expressed verbally to an experienced teacher or peers.

Most likely you will have a goal in mind when you come to meditation practice. What is in your mind and heart matters deeply and does not need to be separated out from your meditation practice. Much of the learning comes from your own recognition and insight, rather than from an authority, a tradition, or any dogmatic and rigid way of thinking about meditation. More on this is here:

Feel free to reach out and contact us to better acquaint yourself with our open meditation practice:
Linda Modaro:  |  Bill Wellhouse:

We offer a schedule that includes several meditation sittings sessions per day, dharma talks, small group reflection, individual sessions if desired, and free time.

The retreats are held in silence, and you can bring reading materials, as well as equipment for your daily exercise routine.

Three meals per day – vegetarian, and a lighter meal at dinner. We will cater our lunch and dinner and can accommodate food allergies, but there might be an extra charge.

If you have not been on a retreat with us before, please schedule a time to speak with one of the teachers so you can better acquaint yourself with our philosophy.

Our orientation to meditation seems to help develop some of these aspects and qualities:

• An independent, flexible meditation practice that can be done anywhere, anytime.
• Relief from reactivity by being able to tolerate and appreciate the range and complexity of difficult mental and physical states.
• The cultivation of a self-honest and safe inner environment where you can learn to meet whatever your mind comes up with.
• Peaceful, relaxed and stress-free states of mind which allow you to rest, take ease, and be less impulsive.
• The development of qualities such as awareness, kindness, patience, curiosity, friendliness and generosity.
• By articulating and describing your meditation sittings, you can learn to discern many experiences which are not often languaged in meditation or life.
• Becoming aware of your patterns and habits in meditation can facilitate personal insights into your behavior and relationships.


Sati Sangha has a desire to lead a generous, respectful life and to share it with others. Your giving and generosity for the teachings will be received with gratitude.

For retreats and larger workshops we have established our registration fees and dana as a range, rather than setting one amount to cover expenses with a request for an additional donation for the teachings. The low end of the range covers only out-of-pocket expenses for the retreat center and teachers. Payment at the higher ranges support the teaching and living expenses for Linda Modaro, honorariums for co-teachers, and students experiencing financial challenges. We do not want to turn anyone away for lack of financial resources. Those who cannot afford the lowest range ($750 in this case) should talk to Linda; we will try to find a way to work it out.

Suggested Fees and Dana Range: $750-1500 (includes fees and dana)

Deposit due: $200 due by January 31, 2020

No cancellations after this date unless emergency: March 1, 2020

Final payment due: March 12, 2020

Email for more information.


“Thanks to this gentle and spacious orientation to meditation, I had time to really pause, feel my vulnerability, as well as take in the good. It takes guts to be gentle!”

Another added: “I loved the talks and conversations! They were excellent, insightful and not overly complicated but enabled deep contemplation.”

Online Retreat Testimonials

“This set up allows people all over the world to participate.”

“(I benefited from) creating a space to set aside to deepen the practice; having a set schedule to follow.  During the last half hour of the retreat, both my phones were ringing and leaving messages that needed tending. Afterwards I found myself attending to them in such a different frame of mind – as part of my practice. Having that mind-set is very helpful.”

“Meditators are concerned with the carbon footprint and climate justice. I don’t have to travel so less carbon footprint.”

“All the benefits of a traditional retreat without the multiple expenses of travel, lodging, pet-sitter, time off work, etc.  I was able to participate in this retreat because I could do so online.  I am grateful for the opportunity, and I am pleased that an online retreat, such as this one, is more accessible to people of limited financial means, or who are not able to travel.”

From our recent online retreat: “Journaling and sharing my thoughts has been a challenge for me in the past. On this retreat, though, I found it surprisingly easy to share with the group. Not quite sure why, though…perhaps feeling safe and secure in my home, and thus more willing to be open…? For whatever reason, this online format really worked well for me.”